How young is too young for facebook

Okay, so I just was on fb, and checking a friend of mine's page. Just happened to see that her daughter (who is one of Grace's close friends) has her own facebook page. And she is ONLY 8 yrs old! I'm sorry, but this is craziness to me, for a child that young to be trusted with that kind of technology. She's also had her own cell phone since she was 5 or 6 yrs old. Her mom is only 25, so maybe she thinks it's all fun and games for her daughter to have these things. This isn't an isolated incident. Seavie also has a young cousin, who is 11 yrs old, and she has her own fb page, and puts all types of things on there she shouldn't. You would think her father (who has been divorced 3x) and is fb friends with her, would know better, and have the heart to want to protect his very young and innocent daughter from the world of fb. Pure craziness!!!! And lets not forget the time last year when I was at the library in the kids area, sitting next to a bunch of pre-adolescent young boys, maybe 10-11? looking at girls facebook pages and my space pages online and talking about who was hotter and who had bigger you know whats. It took all my will not to interrupt them and give them a stern mom lecture. As well as ask them where the heck their parents were, leaving them alone on the computer to look at that.

I have just started reading "Bringing up Girls" by Dr.Dobson. I'm just a few chapters in, and I'm sure this issue is addressed in the book. But more than anything, as a mom of a daughter, it is my role, and Seavie's role to protect that childhood innocence of Grace as long as possible. I know that it's a new technological age that we live in, and it's becoming to be the norm, but I'm just not okay with it. E-mail acct. maybe in a few yrs, and fb isn't supposed to be open to kids under 14 or 15, even though they can figure out ways around it. When I was in HS, maybe 15 or so, and when the internet was a relatively new world to me, I discovered the crazy world of chat rooms. I don't know that my parents really knew that I did that. But I remember being a stupid young teenage girl, pretending to be older and prettier than in real life. Talking with older boys, one of whom wanted to do phone s*x, and the other, dirty old man, talking about a "thrill on blueberry hill" like the oldies song. Luckily I had enough common sense to not do those things, and end the chat rooms after that point, because it scared the heck out of me. I might have even confessed to my mom, I don't remember. The point being, that young kids and technology need to have set boundaries and limits in place to protect them. It is our role as parents to protect our children from the outside worldly influences.

This is also why, when we remodel our bedroom/living room, that our old walk-in-closet, will be turned into an open office area, with NO door. That will be right off of the kitchen and living room, so it won't be in a secluded spot. It's in a place where when our kids are old enough and use the computer more frequently can't go off and hide and feel like they are outside of the boundaries set for them. It's also why they will never have their own tv or phone in their room as well. Seavie and I had these rules growing up at our own homes, and want to enforce the same rules for our kids. Even though we might have been upset about it in middle school and HS, it was something to be thankful about later. To have a parent that looks out for you and protects you. That we as Christian parents would be able to fight against the worldly influences that are out there trying to get our children's attention.

Answers in Genesis.....Dinosaurs!

I had the opportunity to take the kids this morning to part of the Answers in Genesis conference that was held at a local church, and was led by Ken Hamm. He works with the group that built the Creation Museum in N.Kentucky http://creationmuseum.org/ and is working on the Ark Encounter http://arkencounter.com/ Both of which places sounds amazing spots for future family vacations!

Anyways, this morning he was speaking to K-5th graders (homeschool, christian, and public school kids) about the truth about Dinosaurs and the Bible. I was so thrilled to hear him speak, because it wasn't really until last fall when I studied Genesis with cbs, that it all completely made sense to me. (It also didn't help that I grew up reading National Geographic, which can be totally confusing to a young child without the creation view).

From a biblical perspective, he said that the earth is only around 6000 yrs old. And that the flood happened about 4500 yrs ago (so when the earth was only 1500 yrs old, Noah built the ark). How it was presented was that there were 7 "ages" of the dinosaurs. 1. Formed (when they were created). 2. Fearless (when they lived with other animals and humans without violence or death) 3. Fallen (after sin and death- and when animals and humans went from being herbivores- to carnivores). 4. Flood (large dinosaurs wiped out,fossils spread all over the earth baby dinosaurs (lizards) in the ark) 5. Faded- when they died (became extinct) 6. Found (when people found out they were real, and not pretend animals) 7. Fiction (evolutionist telling people dinosaurs are millions of yrs old vs. the reality of a few thousand)

He has it all in detail in a book called "Dinosaurs for kids" by Ken Hamm. Which you can find on half.com or amazon.com. Which they were all sold out of at the conference, but I plan on getting a copy for my kids. Braden loves dinosaurs but I just hate all the books that talk about them being millions of yrs old and all the different dinosaur periods, etc. The term dinosaur wasn't even coined until 1841. He said that the avg. size of "dinosaurs" were the size of sheep and chickens. He also used lots of scriptures references from Job 40 (behemoth) , and Isaiah (leviathan). Talking about dragons of the land and of the sea, and how pretty much every culture has a dragon story or a flood story. How they are all correlated. It was all great information for Grace to hear.

As a parent of kids in public school, to make sure that my kids know the truth 100% from the bible, and not get sucked into the evolution view when they are older in science class. More than anything to know that the Bible is true, and the words and stories can be trusted. Last year while studying Genesis, and Exodus, I was doing research online. You know you always hear stories of what supposedly happened to Noah's ark, and where the Israelites crossed the Red Sea. I came across the most wonderful picture and video evidence from Ron Wyatt (which I guess there is a little controversy over, since he was a freelance archaeologist) But to me, the evidence all looks real, and I think that God will reveal what he wants to reveal, irregardless of their background. That God uses those people to get the truth out to others who might doubt the truth. I highly, highly recommend to go to http://www.squidoo.com/noahsarkfound It has all the documentation of his findings and pictures, evidence etc. and for the Mt.Sinai/red sea crossing go to: http://www.biblediscoveries.com/content/view/48/56/ Also you can search youtube for the actual video footage of his trip to the red sea crossing site, where he actually found marker stones on each side, and a underwater land bridge; as well as the charred mountain top, and boundary stones, calf altar. I think that the information presented makes a very good case for the truth. I have always had a love of archaeology and actually have the archaeological bible as well, but I am such a visual learner, that this type of documentation completely makes it all come alive. I also plan on sitting down with the kids and explaining the pictures and videos to them, so they can see stories almost come to life from the Bible. Anyways, I really hope you'll take the time sometime to check out the links and videos above. God is amazing!

Girls and their dolls

My parents called me early one weekend morning before Christmas, and told me they were going to the mall to get Grace and American Girl doll. I was a little dazed at first, one because they woke me up, but two, it just took me by suprise. Grace loves the books, and that's all she has known of the American Girl world. So she got her doll for Christmas and was so excited, because it has glasses just like her, and brown hair. So on New Years Day, we went to eat lunch at 5 guys at the mall, and I told Grace we could go into the American Girl store after lunch, to "look only". She thought it was fun to see all the different dolls and outfits, and see all the book characters in doll form. She never once asked for anything in the store :) She was totally content too look and be on her way. Which is totally fine with me.

It was an experience in itself being there and seeing the store packed with families and coming out with bags and bags of stuff. But that could be any store at the mall really. I have this crazy thing that I used to absolutely love the mall and shop there all the time in HS and college. But since then it just hasn't appealed to me. I just don't do well in crowds of masses of people. It freaks me out. So people watching is my fun thing that I love to do around large groups of people. We must have been the only people walking out of the store without anything. Seavie refused to come into the store, and just stayed in the car with Braden because it was overwhelming to him too.

I talked to someone the other day who bought her 6 yr old daughter 6 dolls @$100 a piece, plus outfits and accessories. She just said that she had asked for them, so she just got them for her. I have no problem with the dolls and the store. I think it's cute and fun. I do think there is a lesson to be learned for parents so that their kids don't grow up having a sense of entitlement. Meaning just because they want something right this very moment, doesn't means that mommy or daddy will buy it for them. This goes for toys, clothes, phones, etc. Not to say that you can't buy your kids nice things, because every parent wants that for their children. But especially at that age, to make them realize what it means to buy that item. To be able to earn an allowance, to save up money to buy a special item etc. Just my food for thought for the day...

A trip down memory lane

My sister and I were invited to a cookie exchange at our old house we grew up in, the week before Christmas. I am friends with the new owners who have lived there almost 7 years now. I had been back to the house a few times prior to that, which had been fun to re-live those memories of growing up in that house from the time I was 7 1/2- almost 23. She had some sad news that day, that her husband (who had been out of work for almost 3 yrs now) was offered a job in TX, and they will be moving this spring. So we'll be able to go back and visit the house probably one more time before they move and say goodbye. Since I'm sure the new owner's would probably think I was crazy to want to see my old house. I know it's a privilege that most people don't get. But I'm just glad I've had the opportunity to do that.

To a lighter note, all the neighborhood moms came to the party. They all looked exactly as I remembered them, just a little older. There did seem to be a common theme that they were all trying to dress and act much younger than they actually are. Maybe that's what happens when you reach your 50's, I don't know. But my sis and I found it to be absolutely hilarious. With 2 neighbors specifically, had turned into "cougars". Talking about pole dancing clubs, and drinking etc. dressed like they're out for a night on the town. You could have a whole tv show on the "Desperate Housewives of Johnson County" just in our old cul-de-sac.

The other funny, or sad part of that story depending on how you see it, is what happened to their kids:

One mom, had 3 boys, and they all played sports. Well she intentionally held back all 3 of them a year, one of them 2 years in school, so they'd have an advantage in playing competitive sports. 2 of them went on to play football at TCU, and the 3rd one was 24 and about to graduate, and didn't make the team. You could tell she was visibly disapointed in the 3rd son.

Another mom, the cougar mom, gave her daughter drinks of her beer when she was a toddler. And now her daughter is a wild 21 yr old, and mom and daughter go out drinking together.

A couple I used to babysit from my old church had 4 kids. The 2 oldest boys fought like cats and dogs over who got to play nintendo. So much so that whenever I watched them, they were banned from playing it because it irritated me so badly. I sent them outside to play. Their mom said they still are obsessed with gaming to the point where they've shut out other aspects of their lives. The couple is now divorced and their kids are all a mess.

I vividly remember being 10-11 years old when I first started babysitting and saw all these different things going on in the neighborhood that have always stuck with me, things that you never forget, that would affect my views of how I did/did not want to parent. It made me sad for one, what had happened to those families. But more than anything the huge impact we have on our children's lives by the decisions we make for them when they are growing up. Decisions that play into their character and personality for the rest of their lives. I know that no family has the perfect life, and their is always a degree of some dysfunction, but to give the kids a good head start early on.

Opportunities this year brings

I have the opportunity to get back into Interior Design/Historic Preservation work on a consultant basis, possibly as a Project Manager for the Pleasanton Hotel. A project I worked on briefly in 2005. I am thrilled about the potential to get involved with this again.

I've been nominated by the Director, and my supervisor, to be on aapc's Banquet commitee for Oct.2011. I will be the Banquet Reservations coordinator. Which involves a lot of detail oriented, data entry work for around 5,000-6,000+ banquet guests.

There is another opportunity, but that's still a secret for now :) and no, it doesn't involve a baby.

Speaking of babies though, I will be welcoming a new nephew at the end of May. He makes nephew #3. And possibly welcoming a niece or nephew by the end of the year if my sister has a baby. So it will be a fun year for babies!

I also finally talked to my neighbor a few days ago about Foster Care! (I had talked to Seavie about the idea several months ago, and it went over suprisingly well) She was a foster parent for 12 years, and had a lot of good truthful info to share with me about her experiences. Our next step would be to go through the 30 hr. training class, sponsored through a local agency. All of the adjustments it would have on our family wouldn't be too bad, but the biggest hold up right now is our cars. They are paid for, and we plan on keeping them paid for. But if we were wanting to take up to 2 foster children, or eventually adopt 2 children, we would have to probably replace the Tahoe for a Suburban, or some 3 row SUV. No Minivan's are in my future (sorry to my friends who love them, but they are NOT me). And before we could buy a new car with cash, our debt would all need to be paid off, which won't happen at least for maybe 1-2 years depending. So now it's just an issue of knowing we want to make a difference, but when the timing would be right to get involved. Whether it's now, or in 1 1/2 years when I'm back at work. I know God's timing is perfect, and it's something that we have to pray about as a family.

So those are the big things that may bring some extra busyness to my life this year, along with keeping up with my 2 kiddos!

New Years Resolutions

I have never really been known to make new years resolutions, let alone stick with them. This year is going to be different. Here are my top 10 New Year's Resolutions:

1. Work out 4-5x a week with a goal of losing 25-30 lbs. by my 30th b'day in June. I really want to wear my cute skinny clothes this summer again :)

2. Getting the food part of our budget finally under control (it's been 2 yrs in the making). Seavie and I are in agreement- no snacks, eating out only 2x a month, and starting e-mealz to help budget food$ and eat at home every day. As part of that food issue, we are both going to cut back on sweets, and hopefully be able to lose weight eating better. (So far this week we've had no setbacks)

3. Using the extra $ we used to spend on food, and working hard on paying off our debt (99% home improvement related) with the debt snowball!!!

4. Spending more time doing my weekly bible study and reading the bible.

5. Reading more books in general, instead of time on the computer. On my list is: The Power of Half, Bringing up boys, Bringing up girls, and the full unabridged 1300 pg. Les Miserables (that I read about 15 yrs ago, and loved)

6. Getting up earlier and spending more time with my family. (I'm not a morning person at all, so this will take some effort)

7. Spending more time with the kids doing fun things and playing together.

8. Working on setting new family traditions this year for holidays, and sticking with it.

9. Being bold in my life.

10.Doing things that I've always dreamed of.