Girls and their dolls

My parents called me early one weekend morning before Christmas, and told me they were going to the mall to get Grace and American Girl doll. I was a little dazed at first, one because they woke me up, but two, it just took me by suprise. Grace loves the books, and that's all she has known of the American Girl world. So she got her doll for Christmas and was so excited, because it has glasses just like her, and brown hair. So on New Years Day, we went to eat lunch at 5 guys at the mall, and I told Grace we could go into the American Girl store after lunch, to "look only". She thought it was fun to see all the different dolls and outfits, and see all the book characters in doll form. She never once asked for anything in the store :) She was totally content too look and be on her way. Which is totally fine with me.

It was an experience in itself being there and seeing the store packed with families and coming out with bags and bags of stuff. But that could be any store at the mall really. I have this crazy thing that I used to absolutely love the mall and shop there all the time in HS and college. But since then it just hasn't appealed to me. I just don't do well in crowds of masses of people. It freaks me out. So people watching is my fun thing that I love to do around large groups of people. We must have been the only people walking out of the store without anything. Seavie refused to come into the store, and just stayed in the car with Braden because it was overwhelming to him too.

I talked to someone the other day who bought her 6 yr old daughter 6 dolls @$100 a piece, plus outfits and accessories. She just said that she had asked for them, so she just got them for her. I have no problem with the dolls and the store. I think it's cute and fun. I do think there is a lesson to be learned for parents so that their kids don't grow up having a sense of entitlement. Meaning just because they want something right this very moment, doesn't means that mommy or daddy will buy it for them. This goes for toys, clothes, phones, etc. Not to say that you can't buy your kids nice things, because every parent wants that for their children. But especially at that age, to make them realize what it means to buy that item. To be able to earn an allowance, to save up money to buy a special item etc. Just my food for thought for the day...

A trip down memory lane

My sister and I were invited to a cookie exchange at our old house we grew up in, the week before Christmas. I am friends with the new owners who have lived there almost 7 years now. I had been back to the house a few times prior to that, which had been fun to re-live those memories of growing up in that house from the time I was 7 1/2- almost 23. She had some sad news that day, that her husband (who had been out of work for almost 3 yrs now) was offered a job in TX, and they will be moving this spring. So we'll be able to go back and visit the house probably one more time before they move and say goodbye. Since I'm sure the new owner's would probably think I was crazy to want to see my old house. I know it's a privilege that most people don't get. But I'm just glad I've had the opportunity to do that.

To a lighter note, all the neighborhood moms came to the party. They all looked exactly as I remembered them, just a little older. There did seem to be a common theme that they were all trying to dress and act much younger than they actually are. Maybe that's what happens when you reach your 50's, I don't know. But my sis and I found it to be absolutely hilarious. With 2 neighbors specifically, had turned into "cougars". Talking about pole dancing clubs, and drinking etc. dressed like they're out for a night on the town. You could have a whole tv show on the "Desperate Housewives of Johnson County" just in our old cul-de-sac.

The other funny, or sad part of that story depending on how you see it, is what happened to their kids:

One mom, had 3 boys, and they all played sports. Well she intentionally held back all 3 of them a year, one of them 2 years in school, so they'd have an advantage in playing competitive sports. 2 of them went on to play football at TCU, and the 3rd one was 24 and about to graduate, and didn't make the team. You could tell she was visibly disapointed in the 3rd son.

Another mom, the cougar mom, gave her daughter drinks of her beer when she was a toddler. And now her daughter is a wild 21 yr old, and mom and daughter go out drinking together.

A couple I used to babysit from my old church had 4 kids. The 2 oldest boys fought like cats and dogs over who got to play nintendo. So much so that whenever I watched them, they were banned from playing it because it irritated me so badly. I sent them outside to play. Their mom said they still are obsessed with gaming to the point where they've shut out other aspects of their lives. The couple is now divorced and their kids are all a mess.

I vividly remember being 10-11 years old when I first started babysitting and saw all these different things going on in the neighborhood that have always stuck with me, things that you never forget, that would affect my views of how I did/did not want to parent. It made me sad for one, what had happened to those families. But more than anything the huge impact we have on our children's lives by the decisions we make for them when they are growing up. Decisions that play into their character and personality for the rest of their lives. I know that no family has the perfect life, and their is always a degree of some dysfunction, but to give the kids a good head start early on.

Opportunities this year brings

I have the opportunity to get back into Interior Design/Historic Preservation work on a consultant basis, possibly as a Project Manager for the Pleasanton Hotel. A project I worked on briefly in 2005. I am thrilled about the potential to get involved with this again.

I've been nominated by the Director, and my supervisor, to be on aapc's Banquet commitee for Oct.2011. I will be the Banquet Reservations coordinator. Which involves a lot of detail oriented, data entry work for around 5,000-6,000+ banquet guests.

There is another opportunity, but that's still a secret for now :) and no, it doesn't involve a baby.

Speaking of babies though, I will be welcoming a new nephew at the end of May. He makes nephew #3. And possibly welcoming a niece or nephew by the end of the year if my sister has a baby. So it will be a fun year for babies!

I also finally talked to my neighbor a few days ago about Foster Care! (I had talked to Seavie about the idea several months ago, and it went over suprisingly well) She was a foster parent for 12 years, and had a lot of good truthful info to share with me about her experiences. Our next step would be to go through the 30 hr. training class, sponsored through a local agency. All of the adjustments it would have on our family wouldn't be too bad, but the biggest hold up right now is our cars. They are paid for, and we plan on keeping them paid for. But if we were wanting to take up to 2 foster children, or eventually adopt 2 children, we would have to probably replace the Tahoe for a Suburban, or some 3 row SUV. No Minivan's are in my future (sorry to my friends who love them, but they are NOT me). And before we could buy a new car with cash, our debt would all need to be paid off, which won't happen at least for maybe 1-2 years depending. So now it's just an issue of knowing we want to make a difference, but when the timing would be right to get involved. Whether it's now, or in 1 1/2 years when I'm back at work. I know God's timing is perfect, and it's something that we have to pray about as a family.

So those are the big things that may bring some extra busyness to my life this year, along with keeping up with my 2 kiddos!

New Years Resolutions

I have never really been known to make new years resolutions, let alone stick with them. This year is going to be different. Here are my top 10 New Year's Resolutions:

1. Work out 4-5x a week with a goal of losing 25-30 lbs. by my 30th b'day in June. I really want to wear my cute skinny clothes this summer again :)

2. Getting the food part of our budget finally under control (it's been 2 yrs in the making). Seavie and I are in agreement- no snacks, eating out only 2x a month, and starting e-mealz to help budget food$ and eat at home every day. As part of that food issue, we are both going to cut back on sweets, and hopefully be able to lose weight eating better. (So far this week we've had no setbacks)

3. Using the extra $ we used to spend on food, and working hard on paying off our debt (99% home improvement related) with the debt snowball!!!

4. Spending more time doing my weekly bible study and reading the bible.

5. Reading more books in general, instead of time on the computer. On my list is: The Power of Half, Bringing up boys, Bringing up girls, and the full unabridged 1300 pg. Les Miserables (that I read about 15 yrs ago, and loved)

6. Getting up earlier and spending more time with my family. (I'm not a morning person at all, so this will take some effort)

7. Spending more time with the kids doing fun things and playing together.

8. Working on setting new family traditions this year for holidays, and sticking with it.

9. Being bold in my life.

10.Doing things that I've always dreamed of.

New School...

I just found out Monday night, that Grace's school that she's been at the last 3 years, will be closing next school year. *Due to privacy reasons, I'm not mentioning the name(s), so if you could do me a favor to not post that as well, I'd appreciate it* It had been something we knew might be happening over the last few months, but were just praying that it wouldn't happen. Initially, it was going to be that all the kids would transfer to the same school. Now it has been decided that the kids will be split between 2 different schools. Good news for us, the one she'll go to is a lot closer. The bad news is that she will lose most of her best friends to the other school, since they live on the other side of the main street we live off of. She will still have about 6 friends that are girls that will be going to the same school, but her 4 closest friends will be at the other school. So they will be apart for the next 4 yrs, and then together again in middle school. Hard to believe that's only 5 years away! Yikes... On the plus side, she does have an old best friend who she went to pre-school with for 2 years, that goes to her new school. So she'll have at least one good friend from her new school. She's handling it pretty well so far, even though she's really disappointed, since she loves her school.

I shared with her that I moved schools half way through 2nd grade when my parents moved to OP from MO. And Seavie shared with her that he moved schools when he was in 3rd grade, after they moved back from TX. Grace at least has the advantage of having friends transfer with her, as opposed to losing them all together. It was just one of those things as a parent, that you wish you could not have your child experience if they didn't have to. She's already lost 3 good friends that have moved away. In the area where we live I know it's not going to be avoidable.

So in the meantime, we're staying involved with the current school as much as possible. With family nights and book fairs etc. To have lots of good memories. It will also be the last year for her to have her G.G. pick her up from school once a week, since the new school will be .3 miles farther away, it will be too much of a walk for them. So that tradition will end 1 yr earlier than it would have. So she's kind of sad about that.

The True Meaning of Christmas

"What if your friends and family chose to buy gifts for themselves and spent time on YOUR birthday enjoying the gifts they had purchased? Would you feel left out? Forgotten? Unloved? I wonder if Jesus feels loved when His birthday is celebrated around the world. Does he feel appreciated for the purpose He was born or does He feel forgotten?" a quote from "One Million Moms"

I saw this posted on facebook today, and it really got me thinking. It's an issue that always pulls at my heart this time of year, and it is focusing on the real meaning of Christmas. For most of you who know me well, you know that excessive consumerism really bothers me. It's just the time of the year, with ads for absolutely everything imaginable for things that you might not need otherwise.

I'm amazed at all the commercials on qubo channel for kids items. The kids love watching them, but I always give them the disclaimer, that just because you see it on tv, does not mean that you're going to get it. The only exception to this, is that my sister got them both pillow pets, and they are thrilled to pieces with. I just think in general that kids are bombared with all these cool things, that they think, "I want this, and I want that." Although my kids generally aren't gimme gimme kind of kids, I do have them watch the same 2 movies every year. The first being, "The Toy that saved Christmas." It's a veggie tales movie, and the story is to teach kids what the true meaning of Christmas is, that it is Jesus's birthday, and not all about the presents. The second, is "Charlie Brown Christmas." I just watched that this morning with Braden, and I just love the timeless message of how we can get caught up in all the shopping and presents, and lose focus of the fact that we should be celebrating the true meaning of Christmas.

I've taken the simplistic approach to decorating for Christmas this year.We have our nativity set on top of the piano, with Happy Birthday Jesus cards, that the kids have made over the years, as well as a soft nativity set that the kids can play with on their level. We also have the tree in all it's glory, and our stockings, but I've pretty much put away all the Santa themed stuff away. The kids did go see Santa at Bass Pro the other day and loved it. I don't emphasize Santa a lot, just for the simple fact of keeping the focus on where it should be at Christmas, Jesus's Birthday. When I was in Kindergarten, I vividly remember riding home from school on the bus, and telling a little boy that Christmas was Jesus's Birthday, and there was no Santa, and he was in tears. I was trying to be a bold little witness I guess. I haven't been as blunt to tell the kids that there is no Santa (even though I wish I could), because there is some fun with it. -side note-I will tell them flat out that there is no Easter Bunny, because that's another holiday that has been overridden with consumerism. Gift Baskets, of disproportionate sizes, all the candy etc. For some kids it can be easy for them to get distracted by all the pretend stuff, and lose focus of what's really important, like celebrating Jesus dying for our sins, and rising again. We will do the Ressurection eggs.When I was growing up, we'd have gift baskets, that had a spiritual theme- worship tape/cd, worship piano book, cross necklace, devotional, and some candy. Which I think is a more appropriate thing that what you see at the stores in the pre-packaged easter baskets.

In keeping with simplicity this year, I already told the kids, to not expect what they got last year to be a standard thing by any means. We're keeping it with 3 gifts per child, which is symbolic of the 3 gifts given to Jesus when he was a baby, by the 3 wise men. Which this year, is clothes, books, and a toy (or video). They also got toy story 1,2,3 for FREE! from our debit card points :) which was a nice bonus.Things that they can use and need, but won't be thrown in the closet with their other things only to be forgotten about later. I'm also teaching them what it's like to give things to those less fortunate who don't have as much. By donating things to local charity, or helping a friend in need, to let them know that there are people out there who would be lucky to have those things that they can sometimes take forgranted.

That's one thing I really appreciate my parents doing when my sister and I were younger. They would give away toys/clothes we didn't use anymore and donate to the Salvation Army. My parents were also involved with Habitat for Humanity downtown, and every year around Christmas we would ride with Salvation Army-Meals on Wheels program, to go with them to deliver in person, meals to homeless people living in the city. I think that is a huge thing to teach children compassion at such an early age. I can't wait till Braden is just a little older that we can start doing things like that in our community. My sister and I grew up well off. We never wanted for anything. So to counter us living in affluent South JOCO, my dad, who worked in downtown KC at the time, thought that would be a good idea to expose us to what the rest of the world was like. Even when we would go on vacation, ex.NYC, or Washington DC, to point out the homeless and less fortunate, not in a form of ridicule, but to open our eyes to the reality of the world that we live in. The funny part of this story is that my sister and I were both exposed to these same things, but we have different hearts. We both took away from the same events, different things. My sister who now works in downtown KC, has become a little indifferent to people begging for money on the streets etc. Where as if I see someone out in the cold in makes me cry. It's just the heart and personality that God gave us, and how we use those experiences to serve him better. So I encourage my friends who have kids old enough to do the same to make sure your kids know about life outside of what I called our JOCO Bubble. That there is diversity, there are those less fortunate, to see things through God's eyes, not societies eyes.

My prayer is that we would not forget that Jesus is the Reason for the season. To read the bible story to our kids, do advent bible verses, as a time of prayer and reflection leading up to Christmas. That we would celebrate Christmas in a way that would glorify God, and not make Jesus feel unloved or forgotten.

Also check out this awesome organization, "Advent Conspiracy," www.adventconspiracy.org where their goal is to replace consumption with compassion!!! Their 4 main points are: Worship Fully, Spend Less, Give More, Love All.

Thrifty Christmas Shopper 2010

This marks the 3rd Christmas in a row that we have had debt free shopping expenses!!! ( See Nov.25,2009 post for more details...) We have 15 people total to shop for, and if we didn't have a budget, we would be in some serious trouble! This year our budget is $150, so it evens out to not more than $10 a person. Some have come in at less, some at a little more, but overall staying under that #. We have been able to do that the last 3 years thanks to some awesome sales and bargain shopping.

This year again, has been all about simplifying. I have been selling a ton of stuff, and donating a fairly equal amount to charity. Spending less on Christmas with more heartfelt gifts, opens up your heart to give to those who are truly in need this season. Whether it be a local food pantry, city union mission, samaritan's purse, etc. It leaves you with more money left to give to where it really counts. I've just started reading about the Advent Conspiracy Organization, and I love the concept- of keeping the focus on Christ, and keeping it simple.

I know that some of you might not be comfortable shopping at thrift stores-like my 2 favs- turnstyles and salvation army. I'll be the first to admit that when I was younger, I thought only poor, homeless people shopped there, and refused to ever visit. Seriously. So if some of you are thinking about where to do some of your holiday shopping, would you rather give money to giant corporations-who might not even recognize or celebrate "Merry Christmas", or would you rather buy things from someone on CL who has a true need for the extra $; or from a thrift store, where anywhere from 85-100% of the proceeds go direcly to help families that are in need and hurting during this season. Then you get the dual benefit on finding awesome deals, and helping someone in need at the same time.

Just for curiosity sake, I went through and added up how much had been spent at the 2 main thrift stores, plus about 4 other ones we don't frequent as much from the last 3 years. The results were shocking to me. It came in just over $1550.00 . I'm not putting this on here to brag, but merely to show an example of where you'd rather be spending your $. I have a hard time sometimes, when our budget can be tight, wanting to give more but there doesn't seem like enough to make a difference. By shopping at these stores, getting items that we needed anyways-generally clothes (for the kids and seavie), books, toys, household things. The proceeds are going to help people in dire need of assistance in our communities. Even choosing to donate things to your local thrift store, can bring in revenue to help those in our community. Even choosing to buy 2nd hand things from people on craigslist which a lot of times can be practically new, can be a great way to save money. Just in the last few weeks I've talked to several craigslisters that have lost jobs, or been laid off. And so they're trying to make ends meet. That can also be an indirect way to help people in need.

I also love selling unused stuff around our house on craigslist. My motto now is, if it's not being used, then it's either being donated, given to a friend in need, or sold. It is pretty much at bare essentials now. The kids closets seem practically empty, which I'm totally okay with. It reduces the clutter in the house-less to clean up after, all the way around. Selling old toys/games etc. of the kids, gives $ to use towards their Christmas presents this year. Selling random stuff around the house helps pay off unexpected bills, especially medical bills. Since I'm not working, it's really been a great source of income to help provide for our family. And the biggest bonus is, it helps us stay out of debt, and working towards paying off house debt.

On the flip side of selling/donating all this stuff around the house, it helps keep me from being materialistic. Not that I every really was (except in high school), but that if I had to walk away from everything, I would be totally okay with it. That I don't own anything that isn't worth parting with. Just give me the family pictures and memory boxes, and I'm totally okay with that. I know it's a crazy mentality to have in this culture today, but less is more for me. Just enjoying the simple things in life.

**If any of my friends reading this are blessed to have dual family incomes, or a hubby that makes a generous salary, then that's awesome. We've been pretty much living on a very modest income since we got married almost 9 years ago, and it has been rough at times, but I'm so thankful that I can look back at how our mindset has completely shifted in the last few years, especially when times have been tough, and seen God provide, and allow for me to find creative ways to give to my families and friends.**

Through Children's Eyes

This is a topic that has been on my heart a lot lately. Really it started back in early August when we stopped into a town so Grace could see her dear friend "A", who moved away last summer. This little girl was the sweetest little girl-bursting with life and energy, when we greeted her at the door of her new house, it was a different story. She was still happy, but her spirit had changed. I don't know if it's a home life issue or what, but a definite change. It made me a little sad for her that she had to grow up in this situation. She has a mom and dad who love her and 2 younger siblings.

Then in late September, Grace had her 8th B'day party for her friends of hers from school to come over. One of her friends had asked if her older sister could come with her, who is 9 or 9 1/2. I said that was fine, since Grace kind of knows her. This little girl was very sweet, but I could sense that something was different. She seemed a little reserved, even though she was totally content to talk away while all the other girls were playing. The stories she had to tell me all had a common theme, stories of how as a toddler, or young child she got hurt, at home, by some accident, that didn't seem to be the fault of the parents, but that she seemed to dwell on these things. I got the chance to talk to her a little about her home life, and what she thought about things.

Then just the other day there was a group of little kids that live down the street from us playing out at the intersection in front of our house. One little african american boy had a 2 liter sprite bottle that he was carrying around, and drinking, which may seem innocent enough to the passer by. But the very first image that popped into my head was that he was trying to drink it in the same mannerism as he had possibly seen someone close to him drink a 40 oz. It saddened me deeply. There is a large group of kids that live down the street from us, in that same area that I won't let the kids play. I've heard that a lot of that area is Section 8 housing, which may or may not be true. But there is a common theme, that a lot of them live in poverty, and many from single parent households, and more often than not, the parents are paying attention to these kiddos and are just letting them out on the street to do whatever. We've had issues before with groups of older kids from that area, with a bb gun incident as well as loitering. But these little kids down the street are probably pretty harmless. It made me think that they're no different than the families that I serve with all my heart at the crisis pregnancy center, that could be in similar life circumstances.

I guess I'm having a mentality shift of sorts. I'm torn between being a protective parents of my 2 kiddos, but also wanting to reach out to these kids who are need of desperate positive attention.
I'm sure a lot of you have heard me complain about some of these kids, who have no boundaries, and parents leave them home alone, etc. and how I feel so burdened having them as neighbors. I mentioned to a friend at church a while back about this situation, and she said, "Well maybe God is calling you to serve them as your ministry." and I really all but laughed at her, because I had just been so irritated with these kids. I know 100% for sure that I am living where I'm at for a reason. God has made that perfectly clear through many things. Now, it's just a continuation of what my complete purpose may be.

It must be the counselor part of me, wanting to reach out and help everyone in need. I've always been a good listener, and really good at reading people through verbal and non-verbal clues. Being a counselor the last 6 years, I've come to know a lot of different people and situations. These young children, Grace's friends reaching out to me, I feel like they need someone to help them as well. I don't think they're being abused, but I do think there is a huge difference in growing up in a family that loves and cares for their children vs. a dysfunctional family, or that maybe doesn't grow up in a Christian home. And I know I have friends and family who have grown up in all different types of backgrounds, and I'm not judging anyone's parents or upbringing, because I know we all have parts of our past that are hard to deal with.

So with all this said, what I'm trying to lead up to is that the topic of Foster Care and Adoption has been on my heart a lot lately. With different friends adopting babies from Ethiopia, to people at church doing foster care. This past Sunday morning it was mentioned at church, then that night on CSI, someone had grown up in foster care. So I prayed Sunday night for God to show me a sign, or to open my heart about this subject. Then Monday morning, I came across a fb update about how November is adoption awareness for churches. And then later that night another tv show, where the main person grew up in foster care. Tuesday morning, Braden says to me out of the blue, " Mommy, you're only Grace and I's mommy right?, You're not anyone else's mommy are you?" And I told him no, I'm only you and Grace's mommy. Lots of signs right?

Since we're not able to have anymore children, unless God decides otherwise, it makes me a little sad for our decision to not have anymore kids. We were in a financial mess then and under a tremendous amount of stress, and strain on our relationship. Throwing another child in the mix wouldn't have been the best thing. I don't know if it's more that Braden's 4 now, and Grace was 4 when I had him, that it seems like at that age, it's when I'm more mentally ready to even think about the idea. How fun it could be for them to have a brother and/or sister.
I've looked through many local adoption sites, that have children that are waiting to be adopted in foster care. Some are sibling sets. Earlier this year, a God thing happened. A woman from my church needed a new place to live, and the duplex across the street was available, and so she and her adopted son moved in. She's had a rough time with stuff going on since then, but she told me she knows God has a reason for her living there. She also used to be a foster parent. I've asked her to speak with me next week about the foster care process, from her point of view. I've heard some really negative things about one adoption agency, and I know that everyone has different experiences etc. I'm so glad that she's there as someone to talk to about this potential process.

The biggest thing for me is that if we were to go through with it, it would be a huge change for our family, adding another child or 2 in there, to live part time or permanently with our family. That just now when I'm gaining freedom with only 1.5 yrs til Braden starts Kindergarten, that I could potentially be sacrificing what we've been used to and having a whole new life experience. Most likely the children would be older, for a boy, not older than 6, and for a girl not older than 9 or 10, so they could be close in age to the kids. And really most of the kids in the foster care system are past the baby and toddler stage, and are in a state of limbo until they find a new home.

One of my best friends in HS was adopted, and I have 3 cousins who were adopted, and so I know that those situations can work. I just have to find out where God is calling me to in all of this, whether to do community outreach to those hurting in our own neighborhood, or whether it's potential foster care, or adoption. In the midst of that, I had thought of going back to get my Nursing degree in a few years, and now it's torn again with getting a Master's in Social Work. The same 2 things that I was torn between when I went off to college 11 years ago. Two fields of study, that my dad told wouldn't make any money, and that it wouldn't be a good idea. Being naive and stupid listened to him (since he was paying for my schooling) instead of listening to my heart. My heart has been telling me these last 6-7 years that that's where I need to be. Working with a non-profit, or helping people in need. My heart just aches for these people in our community, and the children that sometimes fall by the wayside that need love and affection.

Playing again

Not that I ever stopped playing the piano, but now I get to be a part time accompanist at c.b.s for my sweet friend Gina who is the worship leader there. She asked me yesterday if I'd play this morning, and I said yes. I used to get nervous playing in front of people, but my nerves were totally calmed and it was so great to be doing it again. Piano is one of three huge passions of mine, the others, photography, and singing are the ones I need to start doing again. Or at least on a more regular basis.

8 months...

Until my birthday silly! So I have a little less than 8 months until I turn the big 3-0! In the midst of that, doing a lot of self reflection. One of my biggest goals to accomplish, that may seem like a trivial thing is to lose 30 lbs by my 30th birthday.

For those of you who don't know I was around that weight through college, until a few years before Braden was born, I had gained maybe 50 lbs or so, then add prego weight, and it was up to 70 lbs heavier. So after B was born, the 70 lbs came off super fast, and I kept it all off till about 2 yrs ago. Which isn't too bad. Obviously I haven't gained it all back, but am working on getting it back down. I was down to a size 8, which for me was great, because I seemed to always be a 10. I'd love to be an 8 again. So I love jazzercise, and I'm mostly to blame because I was doing a great job with it, and then got super busy over the last few years, or didn't want to go, because Seavie was working, and so other things got in the way. One of my things to re-prioritize was to get myself back in shape, and going to work out starting at 3-4 times a week, and hopefully make it up to 5 days a week to workout. I have a free membership, since I do childcare, so there's no excuse for me why I shouldn't take full advantage of it. I'm trying to get Seavie to join in on the weight loss challenge too. I actually suggested that we both lose that weight by the time of our 10 yr wedding anniversary in 1.5 yrs, so we can both look good going on a cruise or whatever it may be to celebrate. So here's to goal #1....